I changed a lot this year and these past few weeks have been really nostalgic, full of flashbacks and moments of reflection.
Here’s a look back at 3 big lessons from this eventful year.
No expectations, no disappointments?
This is so hard to control. I’m a human being, a big dreamer. You want me not to have expectations?!
I tried my best to be a dreamer whose feet are firmly on the ground because I didn’t want to get hurt, but in the end... that was me again suffering and being disappointed. But I can't blame anyone, because I was the one expecting too much. And you know what.. have expectations!
I always talk with my friend about it and our conclusion is: you know what.. life is all about that.. a rollercoaster of emotions, we gonna cry, gonna laugh, gonna fail.. and that is it. Life won’t be fun if it is not like that. We cannot expect to live in a world without any imperfection.. cause it's that what keeps us going… fix those things that make us sad, disbelief.
The quote below is just to remind me that sometimes, we can expect without suffering that much, just being rational and realistic ;)
Expectation is the root of all heartache. — Shakespeare
Be patient.
I cried a lot this year. From time to time I was feeling lost, I'm not sure what I am searching for.. When I was immersed in a project, I felt so powerful and happy.. it seems like I was doing something bigger and leaving something to this world. I felt useful. But then, when I noticed that I have no plans for my future I felt lost again.
I told myself that I need to be patient but at the same time, I want it to come faster because I only have a given amount of time on this world like everybody else, we need to spend it the best way we can!
In short, I can do nothing besides trying everything that I can, be myself as much as I can, because the only person who can give the answer that I’m looking for it’s myself. So, let’s set small goals and go at my own pace. Eventually, it will come to me.
I will create my life purpose. 🎉
"Whatever you are searching for may not exist yet, it might just be waiting for you."
In the end, the choice is all yours.
The biggest lesson from this year.
People may try to help you, your friends can be there for you and give pieces of advice but in the end, they will all disappear and you are on your own again. Because whatever you do, in the end, the choice is all yours.
You can choose to take your friend’s advice into consideration but the last choice is up to you, so, you are the one responsible for the results anyways, who gonna suffer or not is you. You choose what you want to believe, you choose who you want to trust..our life is all about choices even when we don’t notice.
The only person who you can fully trust is yourself, the only person who can change yourself is nobody but you. I can’t help anyone if that person doesn’t want to be helped, I can’t change the world.
There will be bad decisions, but ultimately, they all lead you down the same path.
Nobody can decide for you, because you are the one in control, they can show you the way but, again, the choice is all yours. You can't blame anyone. My conclusion about it is: I'm my best friend, and that is the reason why I need to treat myself very well. I wanna look back and laugh about everything I’ve been through, when I thought it was the end of the world but actually was just something so simple.. However, all of those things are part of me, it was something I have to have been through to become who I am today.
In nature, nothing is created, nothing is lost, everything changes.
My friend reminded me of this quote a few days ago. Let's keep the good things that 2016 brought us and let it go. Let go of the things you can't change and embrace what's coming for you.
Bye bye 2016.
PS: PS: I am writing this now.. and I feel so proud and optimistic. A few days later, I’ll be demotivated and discouraged, but that is the endless circle of life. #fighting